IMPHAL DIARY...GODS N GODDESSES IN METRO JOURNEY

Gods n Goddesses in metro trains

‍‍‍Hey maa... Aaj I had darshan of devi maa in metro train... 

The devi with her only two hands was holding one bag in front other two 👜 in other hand ... 

N then she put mobile phone charger in socket n was talking with her divya ear n then she managed to take out her apple n was eating n phone was held between her ears n neck n from other.. Ohh maa water bottle came out

Whatever was happening in crowd devi kept using her weapon.... sorry meant mobile phone... 

I felt my life is complete today to see devi in human form....

Then I realized I find other sort of devi...devta ....rakshas....on metro..daily

 Just as a guide to identify them I will classify them for y

The mobile gyani

The most peaceful and harmless of the lot, they’re not bothered about anything that’s happening around them (not even their own kids!) the ganesha are found deeply engrossed in their  mobiles.... They can be seen in every corner and compartment of the metro. 

Devi selfie 🤳 queen

This type of devi is always decked up and in modern era called as selfie queens obsessing over themselves nonchalant of the hustle and bustle of the metro. The selfie formula is the same everywhere - take your positions, angle yourselves, insert pout and  click........

away from as far as the handallows....

So, instead of making faces at them.... Feel that you r dhanya as you r able to see their pout faces on metro itself.. 

Mohini..The gig

These devis giggle....laugh and chatter in high-pitched tones and riding the metro with them is like listening to FM channel radio mirchi...

Don't ask them to shut up as they will put you in a soup ... Just adore them

Couple Kaamdev n rati...lovers

This type of devi n devta can be seen entwined in each other all over the metro! They sometimes are so into each other, they don’t seem to notice how awkward it gets for others around them. If you spot one of these.... Either remember your time or close your eyes

Kumbhakarna..sleepers

Nobody wants to wake up (and confront) the sleeping giant; even if they are the types who are just pretending to sleep in the space reserved for the old or the physically challenged. These characters can be seen in a Metro on any route - if found just avoid them... 

Manthra... the adjuster

‘Thoda adjust karlo please’....

welcome the Manthra in metro

They squeeze in the tiniest of space they see and eventually leave your rear hanging in mid-air. They will sweet talk you into giving up your seat!

Indra dev..the musical 

These type of men or women are noisy and are often seen screeching into their phones, ‘can’t hear you

They can't  lower their volume, as these people think it’s cool n perfectly right to talk like this...

They make us part of their personal taste of music also as their favourite bhajan of Honey Singh tunes loudly and proudly .... 

Narada...the spy

These type of devi n devta love to spy or snoop around.... by peeping into their phones and just can’t mind their own business! Sit or stand at a distance from such people as they often turn into present era stalkers.... 

The Eternal watchman...always

S/he is...one who always occupies position near gate....no matter he/she has to board down at the terminating station...

The tired yodha

They’ll sit anywhere, anyhow, anytime. Where ever they can find a spot, they’ll put their bags and perch themselves there.. 

Shikhandi..man in ladies compartment

It’s a human tendency that when you’re told not to do something or go somewhere, you always want to do just that and so is the case with these shikhandi who always try their luck to get into the ladies compartment.

IMPHAL DIARIES...POOR MEMORIES ARE GOOD FOR HAPPY LIVING

Have you ever felt that you know the person but can't remember her/him..or we r not able to recollect an episode of life ...while our friends recall about it as it happened yesterday ....or people meet n say hi to you but you r not able to even place them in your life...

Generally people around us takes a very positive view of memories and the act of remembering: we esteem the study of history, we are expected to take photos to capture precious moments; we think that old injustices should be made good in the present; we promise not to forget old acquaintances ...when we r leaving school ...colleges..etc

But without denying the value of any of this,  we  need to do something else: 

                   ..... FORGET.......

Certain memories threaten to destroy the very existence of an individual – although it's bit extreme but certain memories r bad for present or future living...

If we held onto everything that had ever happened to us in all the multicolour vividness of the original event, we’d be overburdened with anxiety and sadness, we’d be continuously terrified and consumed with regret: we’d be driven to despair by all the meanness we’d encountered, all the stupidity we’d been guilty of and all the beauty and goodness we had lost. To have a poor memory belongs is related  to survival.

think if

animals would have memories then it would be killing all around......

We should remember only in so far as it actually helps us to live in the present. To the extent that memories assist us in forming our plans and avoiding error, they are valuable, but when memories function as obstacles to better lives, we should put our energies into the business of forgetting.

The best way to forget is not just time, but – more exactly – events. So as to separate ourselves from the things that haunt us, we have to ensure that we can lay down a dense layer of events between us and they; we need – in short – to make stuff happen.

This is particularly true after a bad breakup, when certain places, times of day and activities remain tightly linked to the past and constantly evoke it painfully:

– Whenever we see the old tea ad

..some building etc we are carried back to memories of cosy days n evenings spent there together.

– Riding our vehicles down the open roads triggers thoughts of energising trips we made there on balmy days.

We’re surrounded by emotional tripwires. Our heart breaks again and again.

We cannot, as we might at points want, get rid of the world in which the relationship once played itself out. We can’t burn the cushions or uproot the restaurant. To forget, we have to impose a new layer of experience on the things we associate with lost love. We should take a new group of friends to the restaurant, sit at side of the road  or get fresh acquaintances to hang out with us on the sofa. We have to reclaim the material of our life from the person who broke our heart.

With a new commitment to forgetting, we should recover some of the hope of the child and the fortitude of an animal.....

HOPE NOT TO FORGET THE MEMORIES IN THESE PHOTOS ...MISS U EVER....

IS VIRTUAL RELATIONSHIP...BETTER THAN REAL ONE

How far we have come from 

Having different meanings of roses ...

.to selecting cards at Archie's shop...

to finding out the difference between best friend...I like you ..to love you..

..n finally the first kiss...these are the shared memories we all cherish as we keep on growing

So does having virtual relationship stoppped or enhanced creating shared memories

 Nowadays we all  text—text... selfies...even wishing birthday n anniversary are through text n smileys ...does it is able to convey the emotion ...

. Many young people are now experiencing their first “romantic” relationship on their phones. Teenage couples begin texting each other intimately and voraciously often before they are even friends, texting things to each other that they would never (ever) say in person. Having a real life relationship with your friend is no longer a prerequisite for having a virtual relationship with him. ....or does people have time to spend...

Nowadays, when a person says s/he is “liking” someone, it generally means that s/he has someone with whom s/he texts around the clock.  It doesn’t however, mean that s/he talks to that person more (or at all) in real life.   Being part of a couple also doesn’t mean that you do anything in the world together, like go for ice cream or see a movie.

On their own, texting relationships might not seem like a big deal, but the challenges that they create is indeed a big deal. Virtual relationships stunt real relationships (and the skills they require).  The pseudo intimacy of the texting relationship preempts real intimacy, which then creates a divide that is difficult to cross.  The virtual romance happens at a pace and rhythm and with a hipness and ease that has little to do with real life romance or, for that matter, the emotional maturity of people... 

Adult relationships are also getting caught in the chasm between virtual and actual reality. After a first or second date, it is common for would-be couples to begin texting with a frequency, casualness, and intimacy that is at higher level of the relationship; they share their thoughts, feelings, and everyday experiences as if communicating with a best friend or maybe more accurately, a part of themselves. 

They share their lives, as well, without the discomfort or effort that a phone call or in person exchange might require. This  immediate intimacy then impedes the possibility of the relationship blossoming into something more real as the connection gets waylaid in a kind of texting purgatory: a fast-paced cool, pseudo-sexy.... relationship.

  Texting relationships feel in our control while real relationships often don't; we can be who we want in text relationships but not always in real ones.  

One can’t be as fabulous in person as in text.  And our friends can’t be as fabulous either, which means that the whole real life relating experience can become a kind of disappointment—ultimately lacking what the texting relationship can offer.  Once again, the real can’t compete with the virtual. 

I wonder, will the gap between our virtual and real life relationships grow so wide that we will opt to give up real life relationships altogether. Will there come a time when we no longer even pretend to want or need face to face interaction?  With the help of robotic technology, will future generations consider romance and courtship to be activities that happen entirely inside their devices?   

Virtual relationships may feel sexier, easier, cooler, and, in the short term, more pleasurable. ....but does it help in creating the shared memories...or it remains as textual memory kept in some cloud of WhatsApp or Google...whatever it is still it is better then nothing as you can connect to people for longer period in some real time ..

IMPHAL DIARIES...ARE YOU WHAT YOU WEAR

The world of fashion is often baffling to ordinary people like me.... And specially a trend comes along which seems utterly ridiculous, yet catches on. Take the current obsession with ripped jeans.

You can barely be in any city  without being assailed by bare knees, calves and thighs — all protruding through swatches of tattered denim.

why is everyone wearing ripped jeans?

WHERE DID IT ALL START?

The first pair of jeans were designed in the late 1870s by Loeb Strauss, a German businessman who changed his name to Levi and founded the denim brand.

Using twilled cotton cloth, he created a durable trouser that would suit the working man. Indigo — a dye extracted from an Indian plant — was used to turn them a dark blue, which was thought to be more practical for the working environment.

The ‘ripped’ trend came later, emerging in the cultural punk movement of the Seventies.

The rips signified rebellion: early punks tore apart consumer goods as an expression of their anger towards society, and denim became a key part of this political statement.

... SO WHY ARE THEY BACK NOW?

ripped jeans made a comeback — rebranded as ‘distressed’ denim......

This coincided with an Eighties fashion revival, marked by the return of jumpsuits, high-waisted trousers....but is this only about this or it has underlying social psychology behind it

ENCLOTHED COGNITION

Does clothes affect cognitive processes...it seems thatwhat we wear is symbolic meaning ...so when one wears it, it’s like playing certain roles.

The old saying “you are what you wear” seems so true nowadays when I interact with people from all walks of lifein almost all aspects of life....

WE BECOME WHAT WE WE WEAR

A suit gives you a feeling of being in control of the situation and thus have better insights and make better work-related decisions. So, wearing a suit isn’t just a matter of fashion but a matter of power.

A similar thing happened when in my house I saw my sister's son wearing  Superman T-shirts...it seems to me he feels that he is actually physically stronger then his friends ....It’s a matter of symbolism Superman T-shirt carries – people identify with its superiority and can’t help themselves but feel great while wearing it.

Tight corsets, and sheer gowns will make a woman feel confident and that’s where the sex appeal comes from, not the other way around. Femininity, confidence and sex appeal are closely intertwined and it all comes from the power pretty dresses brings into your life

MOTIVATION TO WORK OUT

Given the fact that we really are what we wear, it’s no surprise that the so-called gym clothing is such a huge thing in fashion right now.  Infact I feel  gym clothes makes one  motivated  to work out....

DRESSING FOR THE AGE YOU FEEL LIKE

It’s true that the line between “old people’s clothes” and “young people’s clothes” is getting blurrier by the year but there’s still a lot of debate what’s appropriate for a certain age and what’s not..... It’s basically like dressing young to feel young but also so much more than that.

An image you have of yourself can affect both one's personality and health without one even noticing it. That’s where clothes come to the rescue – so, dress for the age you feel like and you’ll surely feel the difference.

DRESS TO IMPRESS

We all try not to judge by the first impression but the power of the first contact can’t be neglected. And because it’s usually the most noticeable thing on a person, clothing can influence all kinds of impressions people will have about you. First of all, the clothes one wears show off one's social status and one's cultural values and it all starts in the early childhood. 

From “pink is for girls, blue is for boys” to choosing the colours you’ll wear depending on the event (for example, black is for funerals, white is not welcomed at the weddings), it’s clear that the clothes we wear not only define us but we also use them to define ourselves.

The only thing that differentiates the  concept of fashion and style is first is embedded in time while second is timeless .. the choice lays with the you..

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Yes, clothing helps in sending and deliver a message but it’s up to individual to choose what kind of message one wants to send. As we all know.... dressing up is a powerful thing and, as it is with every weapon – it should be used carefully so it doesn’t turn against you. So, one should use his/ her wardrobe smartly – to express oneself, boost one's personality...to show the world who we really are. It can really make a difference!