Saturday, April 24, 2021

IMPHAL DIARIES : A LAYMAN'S ANALYSIS OF ONE OF MOST EVOLVED SOCIETY MEITEIS


‍I had a wonderful time playing Holi n that also with all fun n frolic for five days in my life ..that's Imphal 


I was mesmerized by such a culturally evolved society but it was bit confusing as there were certain practice I was not able to understand like holika dahan...which got me more intrigued to understand this Manipuri culture....


These are some information which is based on books n interaction with locals...


 In the very olden times Manipur valley was inhabited by the people belonging to seven clans who were commonly called Meitei or Meeteis The Meiteis had their own system of religion, which had its own myths and legends, Gods and Goddesses, priests and priestesses, rituals and festivals, etc. though it was more or less akin to the animism of the tribals. The Meiteis embraced Hinduism in the 18th century A.D. 


The tribes of the hills remained unconverted and were relegated by the new Manipuri Hindus to the "degraded heathens". In the later part of the history, when Manipur fell into the hands of British Administrators, missionaries were brought in the hills n converted the tribes to Christianity.

The Manipuri Muslims or "Meitei Pangals" were settled with their religion in Manipur Valley during the 17th century onwards. They are called "Pangans" as derived from Bengal (Bangan then Pangan) the place where they migrated.

 

The people settling in the valley are called Tam-mee (Valley people) while the people settling in the hills are called Ching-mee( Hill people ). The various social categories like scheduled tribe, scheduled caste and general were made only after Manipur merged with India.

  The Meiteis who form the major community have their own Creation myth....Their creation Myth clearly shows how the various plants, living things including humanbeings were created. The Gods who took part in the Creation were considered as powerful Gods and they are worshipped till today.

 Every Meitei household keeps a sacred place for Lainingthou Sanamahi who played a major role in creation. Along with this a sacred place for Universal Mother Goddess”Ema Leimarel Sidabi” is also kept separately.. Above this the Meiteis also worship Pakhangba as God of the world outside the household (lamlai).   Lai Haraoba which is performed till today is a very important festival which depicts everything from creation till stage by stage development of Meitei Civilization. The real identity of Meiteis can be established from Lai Haraoba only. The religions, customs, beliefs of the Meiteis are all based on Creation ...

Interaction with Hinduism:

In early 17th century the king turned towards Hinduism. He constructed a temple dedicated to Lord Krishna   The king readied himself to get baptized by to Sakhya religion. Shakhya religion was also called Nimandi Religion and they were the worshippers of Lord Vishnu and his incarnation Lord Krishna.Vishnu Upasana is also calledVaishnavisma

Later a Brahmin named Shantidas along with his  followers  came to Manipur to spread Ramandi religion. Then King Pamheiba under his influence abandoned Sakhya religion and turned towards the new religion called Ramandi.  Ramandi religion was the religion of Lord Rama worshippers. Shantidas enlightened the mind of king Pamheiba about the difference between these two Hindu religions. i.e.Nimandi and Ramandi. He explained thus – Nimandi religion is the religion of an ascetic. Its follower has to renounce all worldly pleasures and wealth. This religion belongs to the pious and the saintly people. Such religion is inappropriate for a Kshatriya warrior ..

Then King tried to forcibly convert his people into the new religion by leaving their old Manipuri religious practices... But the people had deep rooted sentiment for the old Manipuri religion. So the conversion was not completely successful, even though there were some changes. 

Shantidas knew that the mentality of the people would not be easily changed so he tried different ways to deal with the situation. Some of the changes he introduced were 

Brahmins were allowed to enter the Meitei temples  to perform the various religious rites.

Then king gave the order to dug out the buried bodies of the dead and the skeletal remains were collected and burnt and the ashes were thrown to Ningthi river. From then  onwards the Meiteis started cremating their dead.

Before this the Meiteis did not cremated their dead. Instead there was practice of burial of dead bodies. In the next year the grave would be dug out again to collect the bones. The bones were thoroughly washed and then put in a pot to perform the last rites. This was called Mang Chanba or secondary burial. For the kings and the noblemen the skull was covered with gold or silver and buried again. Then on the completion of one year instead of secondary burial a death anniversary called Kumon Phiroi is being observed.

 Rearing of pigs and fowls in the household was prohibited. People were fined if they did so.


During this time, with the falling of misfortune in the land and instability in the minds of the people for their unwillingness to leave old religion and accept new religion, there was utter confusion.

So in order to pacify the minds of the people  Shantidas advised the king to revive Sanamahi worship saying that God was one and Sanamahi was the incarnation of Shri Krishna and Rama was also the incarnation of Lord Vishnu. With these  a sacred place for Lainingthou Sanamahi was maintained and worshipping started. 

But the efforts for conversion to Ramandi religion never ceased. Shantidas thought that until and unless the priceless old manuscripts called Puyas were destroyed people would not accept his religion. So in 1732 A.D all the Puyas..religious text  were collected and put to flames in front of Kangla Utra. This incident is called Puya Meithaba in the history of Manipur. In this fire around 120 different Puyas were burnt but it was presumed that the actual number of manuscripts were much more than this. 

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However hard Shantidas and the king tried Meitei religion could not be totally replaced by the new religion. This forcible conversion led to a great rift between the king and his people. Seeing the situation Shantidas adopted new measures to appease the people.

 The statue of Lainingthou Sanamahi which was destroyed  was made again by casting in bronze. 


People were then allowed to worship Sanamahi at their homes as before. Worshipping of Umang lai was again revived. 

At the same time many Hindu Religious festivals were introduced to the land. The festivals were happily accepted by the people and they became a part of the people’s lives. 

 How Manipur was named:

 With the introduction of Hinduism this land had seen many changes. On the advice of Shantidas this land was named Manipur.   Then King Pamheiba also got a new Hindu name i.e. Garibniwaz. The Queen’s name changed to Gomti. 

During this time the traditional festivals of the Meiteis got mixed with Hindu festivals thereby losing its original form.

After Maharaj Garibniwaj a strong wave of Vaishnavism arose during the reign of Maharaj Bhagyachandra. By then Hinduism had rooted deeply in the soil of Manipur. Statue of  Shri Govind was erected and Ras Leela played. The belief became so strong during the time of Chandrakirti and Churachand Maharaj that speaking without Sanskrit or Bengali words was considered a sign of uncivilized nature. A form of social division called Amang – Aseng (somewhat similar tountouchability) began to flourished. People who did not follow Hindu religion were considered as inferior people.

Mixed Culture: A racial unconscious

Even though Hinduism became the main religion of Manipur the traditional religious beliefs and customs were not totally lost. The religion followed by the Meiteis is a combination of both Meitei and Hindu religion. It is in a synchronous

form. In every household a sacred place each for Lainingthou Sanamahi, Leimarel and Emoinu is maintained. Even the Brahmins who came and settled in Manipur also worshipped Sanamahi in their homes. Umang Lai Haraoba still remains as a purely Meitei festival. It remains unaffected by Hindu religion. But the festivals, various rituals from birth till death all exhibit a mixed form of Meitei religion and Hindu religion.

While making houses the Meiteis still follow the traditional manner and practices. Whenever it comes to selection of proper site the Meitei tradition is followed while laying of foundation and consecration are done in Hindu style by consulting Brahmins.

 Inside the houses Sanamahi and Leimarel are worship, outside the houses the Meiteis worship the Tulasi (Sacred basil) planted in their courtyards. Images of Hindu Gods and Goddesses like Saraswati (Goddess of learning), Lakshmi (Goddess of wealth), Durga ( Goddess of war/valour), Vishwakarma ( God of skill) are worship from tome to time. Shiv – ratri, Govardhan Puja are being performed. Along with these the Meiteis also offer vegetables or fruits to Sanamahi everyday or from time to time. Whenever misfortune befall on any person ancestor worship is carried out. There is no Hindu influence here. The Meiteis also carries out worship of Emoinu who is the Goddess of wealth as Goddess Laxmi is worshipped by Hindus..


The Manipuri Ras Leela is a world renowned classical dance form of India. The main theme is based on the story of Krishna (Hindu God)  and Radha. But the art form, costumes and inner concept all belong to this land.


Rath Jatra is a part of Hindu religion. This is done in Manipur also. In Manipur a big Rath (Chariot) is drawn from the palace and this is called Konung Kang Chingba. Besides these many smaller raths are drawn in different localities. The tradition followed in Manipur is different from other places. The palace rath should be drawn first before the rathas of the localities. During night a song and dance ritual called Choitep Chongba is performed and khichdi is prepared as prasad. Choitep Chongba is actually singing the songs of Geet Gobind, Das Avtar of the Poet Jaydeva which is accompanied by dancing. Men, Women, Old and young all can take part in this dance which is usually performed in the Mandap (a big space in front of the temple). 

So, now in this present times, meitei have divide into two types are according to the religion they follow which is 

a.   Goura 

B.  Meitei Marup

Goura follows the rituals and tradition which is mixture of both hinduism and sanamahism while Meitei Marup only follows Sanamahism. 

So if we look at above it seems that Manipuri society is still evolving between racial unconscious as well as personal unconscious....They r really to be proud of as how they have evolved n made everything as part of their culture..a true representation of unity in diversity....


Wednesday, April 7, 2021

IMPHAL DIARIES: Why We Don't Like to Be Told What to Do

Why We Don't Like to Be Told What to Do


Would you like an apple or a banana?

“No, I want an orange!

Outdoor gym should be at X place.....the group says Y!

Telling boys to walk in formation ...n once they r free walking like cattle herds!

It's a unique way in children but to see it in adults n that also as a group motivated me to write this blog
 Here one just cannot help but want to do the opposite of what boss ask him/her, or choose whatever option is not in the set.


This tendency to go against the grain is called psychological reactance ....This I am observing throughout my career n now in my present job at this place it is so so true.... Reactance is usually activated when we feel that our freedom is threatened. When we perceive that someone or something is trying to influence us to do something against our will, reactance arises.
Reactance motivates us to protect our own beliefs and views, and sometimes, to do the opposite of what we’re being asked to do.

Not liking to be told what to do also varies by culture. I would call this cultural reactance. For instance, wearing mask varies from culture to culture....


These cultural differences are visible in how society teach their kids: parents in collectivistic cultures are more likely to teach their children obedience and respect for authority; whereas parents in more individualistic cultures,  encourage their children to be more independent, to grow up to be autonomous, and to think and act for themselves

But regardless of our natural or cultural inclinations, sometimes following orders is in our best interest. We should wear a seat belt when we drive, we should stop at red lights, and we should not text and drive.

The natural and cultural inclination of some people to resist any and all forms of "influence" poses a serious challenge to improve and bring positive changes. Their misplaced perception about taking away their freedom or living in an imaginary world  not only affect them but the whole group itself.

HOW to persuade non conformist

  The power of subtle persuasion to influence what we do without triggering our reactance is the Key..... The idea conveyed so  seamlessly and making message resonate with others in ways that give them the illusion that it was their idea all along.


I observed that even highly reactant individuals can get into these subtle influences because it is difficult to perceive indirect messages as an order, and therefore, they are not a threat to freedom.

Nike does not tell us to "Just Buy It," because that would be too direct. Instead, "Just Do it" motivate us to make our own "choices," while implying what the correct choice is (theirs). McDonald's says "I am loving it" implying that there burgers are the best...

Don’t get me wrong: Sometimes reactance can be adaptive.. Being aware and resisting someone trying to unduly influence us can keep kids (and adults!) from succumbing to peer pressure and not following blindly what advertisers signal to us. And yes, questioning authority can generate positive social change.

But, when the influence attempt is for organizational  good—whether principal trying to tell teachers or boss trying to  do the "right" thing—the gut reaction to fight and say no isn’t as useful.

By understanding the triggers that cause us to impulsively make choices that may not actually be in our best interest, we can make choices that not only tap into our desire to remain autonomous, but that also lead to optimal outcomes. 


Sunday, November 1, 2020

The evolution of relationship

Imphal Diaries
Love.....Never Fades....
Genuine love is profound—it does not come and go every now and then; it is something that is likely to last over time. 


When we are sad, lonely or just feeling like we have lost ourselves, it is natural to look for an alternative situation. And one of the first places to do so is our past, and especially in our relationships with those people with whom we were in love. 

Yearning for our previous friend is a type of nostalgia for circumstances that no longer exist. It is usually marked by an idealization of the past and an element of virtual reliving of the past. Nostalgia is a bittersweet longing, combining the pleasurable feeling of the past with the pain of the empty or dull present. 
When we find ourselves in circumstances similar to those that prevailed with an earlier relationship, we slip more readily into a nostalgic romantic mood. Our memory is activated by any reoccurrence of circumstances that prevailed in the original experience. Listening to old love songs and watching romantic movies can provoke a strong yearning for the past lovers with whom we shared these songs or movies (or the content of them).
The wish to be back with the the person whom you love is not activated merely because our current situation is desperate, but also by the memory of passionate love. Sometimes loneliness makes the loudest noise; at other times, profound love provides louder and deeper music. It is quite natural to yearn for a past relationship, particularly if the original relationship was reciprocal and fulfilling.
When a relationship dies, do we ever really give up the ghost, or are we forever haunted by the spirits of past relationships......
The lure of a possible romantic reunion is great..... 

To sum up, yearning for past relationship is natural, and it may even lead to a successful reunion if they parted ..on a happy note......

Friday, September 25, 2020

METRO DIARIES.... FAKE RELATIONSHIPS

Are You in a Fake Relationship called entanglement

It's amazing that suddenly my inner psychologist has come back.... One of my college friend when told me about his so called relationship.... N seeked my advice I as time honoured practice of being a psychologist gave him a patient hearing... N later we delved upon the issue... But this led me to think about entanglement as relationship... 

Meeting someone n still not sure what's the relationship.... It happens n as we grow it happens more... Is it a relationship growing or just N entanglement.... 

Are you in a relationship, or are you in an entanglement?

A relationship is one where both people are in harmony. And that's exactly what it feels like: in tune, relaxed, and just plain fun.

I feel some or other time we all get entanglements masquerading as real relationships....

It's signatures are 

You keep having the same issues

When you find yourself having the same old argument with your partner for the umpteenth time, that's a pretty good sign you're likely in an entanglement. 

You don't feel safe or understood

Entanglements feel like you have to shut down a part of yourself. If you're feeling like your partner just doesn't get you, and that you're not free to say exactly what's on your mind, you know you're not in a real relationship.

Someone always needs to be right

It is characterized by power struggles. Both people are vying for the title of victim, thus making the other the perpetrator. Nobody ever wins.

It's just so hard

If you're feeling drained with your partner, you're likely caught up in an entanglement. 

Is it normal to be entangled...i feel yes....It's completely normal. 
Most people have been in an entanglement, and a lot of them have been in many.
We all come to relationships with unresolved issues from our past, and we naturally look to our partners to make us feel good about ourselves. And so it's always a surprise when we finally think we've found love, only to experience pain and frustration.
What can be done
Identify that you're in an entanglement
Knowing whether you're in a pattern of entanglement is key to resolving it once and for all. Otherwise, there's a "blind spot" that keeps you from moving forward, and you're doomed to keep repeating the pain and struggle.

End the entanglement or transform it into a real relationship

Once you know you're dealing with an entanglement, you can harness all that energy you've been spending on conflict, and instead use it to come up with creative solutions. You can transform the entanglement into a real relationship, or you can end the entanglement with peace of mind, armed with the insight you need to create love and harmony in the future..... 
This is the free advice I gave to my friend... Hope to read your views also..

Saturday, September 19, 2020

metro diary.... metro commuters



10 Types of People You See on the Delhi Metro As Depicted By These Awesome Doodles

There are two things every person living in Delhi has done at least once in their life - travelled by the Delhi Metro and observed the people around them!  If you can spot or relate to people from the list, do share your story with me!I am all ears!


1. The Pseudo Sleepers

Nobody wants to wake up (and confront) the sleeping giant; even if they are the types who are just pretending to sleep in the space reserved for the old or the physically challenged. These characters can be seen in a Metro on any route - if found, show no remorse and give them a rightful nudge!


2. The Adjustmentals

Have you also had someone tell you, ‘thoda adjust karlo please’? Or been cramped up between people trying hard to share the same seat space with you? Then welcome the Adjustmentals! They squeeze in the tiniest of space they see and eventually leave your rear hanging in mid-air. Beware of them, they will sweet talk you into giving up your seat!


3. The Bitchy Behen Jis

They giggle and chatter in high-pitched tones and riding the metro with them is like listening to an all India radio gossip channel. Ignore the poor ladies as they probably don’t have anything exciting happening in their own lives! ‘Cause if you mess with them, then God alone can save you! 


4. The Bookworms

The most peaceful and harmless of the lot, they’re not bothered about anything that’s happening around them (not even their own kids!) the bookworms are found deeply engrossed in their books. They can be seen in every corner and compartment of the metro. Leave them alone, as they don’t tend to like people butting in or making any conversations with them.


5. The Coochie Coo Couples

These lovebirds can be seen entwined in each other all over the metro! They sometimes are so into each other, they don’t seem to notice how awkward it gets for others around them. If you spot one of these, please be polite and tell them to get a room, not a metro compartment to show their love!


6. The Loudspeakers

These people are noisy and are often seen screeching into their phones, ‘can’t hear you!’. But they don’t get that we surely can, and so they need to stop screaming at the top of their lungs. No point telling them to lower their volume, as these people think it’s cool to talk like this, rap Honey Singh tunes loudly and proudly want everyone to know what’s happening in their lives!


7. The Peeping Peeps

Some people just can’t control their eyes from wandering. They love to spy on other people’s lives by peeping into their phones and just can’t mind their own business! Sit or stand at a distance from such people as they often turn into creepy stalkers!!

8. The Selfie Queens

You often find dolled up selfie queens obsessing over themselves nonchalant of the hustle and bustle of the metro. The selfie formula is the same everywhere - take your positions, angle yourselves, insert pout and *click* away from as far as the arm allows, in burst mode! So, instead of making faces at them, feel bad for them as they are also a victim of the new selfie-disorder!

9. The Sit-Downers

We feel they are the true adjustmentals! They’ll sit anywhere, anyhow, anytime. Where ever they can find a spot, they’ll plonk their bags and perch themselves there. Mostly tired students or exhausted professionals can be seen sitting down at the end of the day.


10. The Men in the Ladies Compartment

It’s a human tendency that when you’re told not to do something or go somewhere, you always want to do just that and so is the case with these men, who always try their luck to get into the ladies compartment. Ladies feel free to throw these perverts out as you have all the right to!


Friday, August 7, 2020

IMPHAL DIARIES: BAS YAHI EK PAL HAI



Is Pal Ke Jalwo Ne Mehfil Sawaari Hai
Is Pal Ki Garmi Ne Dhadkan Ubhaari Hai
Is Pal Ke Hone Se Duniya Hamaari Hai
Ye Pal Jo Dekho To Sadiyo Pe Bhaari Hai
Jeene Waale Soch Le Yahi Waqt Hai Kar Le Purii Aarzoo
Aage Bhi Jaane Na Tu, Peechhe Bhi Jaane Na Tu
Jo Bhi Hai, Bas Yahi Ek Pal Hai

You r reading these words right now.. 
I can say that even though I don't know when you'll read this blog right now, today, tomorrow, later but can say with certainty that right now, you're reading the word "now." That's how special "now" is. And yet, for all the thought that's been devoted to time, science doesn't consider "now" as different from the future or the past... 
Time feels real to people. But it doesn’t even exists.....There is no time variable in the fundamental equations that describe the world.... 
Time as illusion
Time,  is merely a perspective, rather than a universal truth. 
The universe is made up of countless events. 
Time moves slower or faster depending on what you’re doing. The minutes in a conference may look like an hour, while meeting with someone for two hours on a rainy day whom you like passes of like in two minutes
The world seems ordered, going from past to present, linking cause and effect, because of our perspective. We superimpose order upon it, fixing events into a particular, linear series. We link events to outcomes, and this give us a sense of time.

It's confusing

Imagine, for example, that you are on Earth, viewing a far-off planet, called DEJAVUUU, through a telescope. “Now” doesn’t describe the same present on Earth and that planet. The light you on Earth see when looking at DEJAVUU is old news, conveying what was on that planet some years ago. 


This might sound strange, until we consider something as mundane as making an international call. You’re in imphal and talking to friends in Tokyo..
When their words reach your ears, milliseconds have passed, and “now” is no longer the same “now” as it was when the person on the line replied, “I can hear you now.”
Consider, too, that we don’t share the same time in different places. Someone in London is always experiencing a different point in their day than someone in New delhi.  We only share the same time with people in a limited place, and even that is a relatively new invention.

It was not until the 19th century, when train travel demanded uniformity....
By the 20th century, we had agreed upon time zones. But it was a business decision, not a fact of the universe.


Basically, time is a story we’re always telling ourselves in the present tense, individually and together. It’s a collective act of introspection and narrative, record-keeping and expectation, that’s based on our relationship to prior events and the sense that happenings are impending.......a mass delusion..... 



The PAL or MOMENTS forever will remain with us
One can keep on reliving .......... it           as.  IT brings out emotions in us
rest ALLL IS FASANA

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