IMPHAL DIARIES I..GEN NEXT... CUSP OF CHANGES IN HUMAN EVOLUTION

The rise of the two factors, smartphones and social media, is a watershed event in human evolution...

Keeping human evolution till 2000 

And from 2000 ....till now.... 

the process of change in generation is by leaps n bound..

Earlier generational changes were based on development in field of technological innovation ...n accordingly segregation was done but this i gen has transformed everything...

Earlier history was written by historians invariably keeping in view ppl who were rulers...n books were written...which were kept the n libraries

Now every human being is documenting its own history by use of social media apps...whether Facebook ... Instagram... .tinder..etc

No more life is dependent on other human being but on apps running on AI.... 

Teens today are shaped by smartphones, and social media... this generationis called as iGen.

The people, born after...2010 are growing up with smartphones, and can not remember the time before advent of internet..

The impact of these devices brought a radical change in the lives of all of us .. From social interaction to  mental health...people today are living their lives on their smartphones. The deleterious effect of ‘screen time’ has not been fully appreciated by many.

iGen’s life on smartphones have made them more comfortable in their bedrooms. They typically choose to be at home rather than in a car, or at a party, which means they are physically safer than their predecessors. They are less likely to get into car accidents, or get a taste for alcohol, as well as they are less susceptible to getting diseases from others...

iGen seems less likely to date. People today merely even talk. The initial stage of courtship, which Gen Xers called “liking”, teens now call as “talking” — the generation’s choice as texting has been their preferred mode for actual conversation...

Staying in their bedrooms also means that teens today don’t need to get their own money that they need to hang out with other kids....

In fact, members of the iGen have more leisure time than their predecessors. These teens don’t work, they spend less time on homework than Gen X teens, and they seldom go out with friends. What they do with all their time is use their smartphone, stay in their rooms, alone and often distressed.

The greatest irony of today’s generation is that though most of the time the teens are at home together with their parents, it doesn’t mean that they are close to their mothers and fathers. Teens today rarely converse with their parents so they can focus on their smartphones.  

One of my psychologist friend in Delhi told me that ...kids  spend much of their time keeping up with friends, but nearly all of it was over text or Snapchat. 

The hang out spots of teens like the football ground...tea has been replaced by virtual places or gaming zones where today’s kids go....

Teens today, though they do not go out frequently, when they do, they document it on social media platforms like Snapchat, Instagram, and Facebook. The other kids who are not invited are clearly aware of it. 

Social media also add a psychic tax on social media posting as well. They get anxious about other people’s comments and likes. 

But I found this true for people like us  also....people who r older also have glued on this smartphone life

So is it a transitional phase or cusp of major change in human evolution....

I have no clue but whatever it is I feel good that I'm able to see this transition...

IMPHAL DIARY MARRIAGE BOX

‍‍‍Marriage Box‍

As we all know marriage at start is an empty box.. N love is in people not in marriage... Romance is infused in marriage

Now seeing things around me I feel the very reason of cheating.. Divorce.. Etc.. is predominantly is this concept 

It is ugly that the court and the law and the state interfere in our private life -- one has  to ask their permission to get seperated..

. Who are they? It is a question between two individuals, their private affairs.

But man has created societies, cultures, civilizations, rules, regulations, and made the whole humanity unnatural.  men and women either become husbands and wives -- which is something absolutely ugly; they start owning each other.... People are not things, you cannot have ownership.

No wife is anybody's property, no husband is anybody's property.

What kind of world have we created? People are reduced to properties; then there is jealousy, hatred. 

The problem is: biologically man is attracted to woman, women are attracted to men, but that attraction cannot remain the same forever. You are attracted to something which is a challenge to get. You see a beautiful man, a beautiful woman; you are attracted. Nothing is wrong in it. You feel your heart beating faster. You would like to be with this woman or man, and the attraction is so tremendous that in that moment you think you would like to live with this woman forever.

In a better, more intelligent world, people will love, but will not make any contracts. It is not a business! They will understand each other, and they will understand the changing flux of life. They will be true to each other. The moment the man feels that now his beloved holds no joy for him, he will say that the time has come to part. There is no need for marriage, there is no need for divorce. Then friendship will be possible. 

Why friendship is not possible between men and women.... Friendship is not possible between the jailor and the imprisoned.

Friendship is possible between equal human beings, totally free from all bondage of society, culture, civilization, only living true to their authentic nature. It is not an insult to the woman to say, "Honey, the honeymoon is over." It is not an insult to the man if the woman says, "Now things cannot be beautiful. The wind that has blown is no longer there."  because there is no legal bondage of marriage, there is no question of any divorce.

The woman is dependent on man because he used to earn. And for centuries men have not allowed women to be educated, to be in business, to have jobs, for the simple reason that if the woman has her own financial status, her own bank account, man cannot reduce her to a thing. 

Marriage creates the need to get rid of each other in form of affairs..DIVORCE etc for any reason love is not there

 because it means freedom is taken away -- and freedom is the highest value in human life.

If marriage disappears, divorce disappears automatically. This is a by-product of marriage. 

I know there r things if not made legal men will misuse this freedom but now or in near future woman will become independent.. N then we may have to rethink on this concept of marriage based on legal contract....

Sometimes it's just fun to understand  happening in our life which are too complicated in just two words or a phrase....

I have tried to compile some of them which seems relevant to me and which can be beneficial to our lives.....

 Murphy’s Law

It states that “what can go wrong will go wrong”. 

We all have probably experienced moments of misery countless times. The day you leave your house without an umbrella, it starts to rain heavily.  You go to the bathroom, and your phone starts ringing from the other room. 

 You may think that the whole world in some eerie ways is conspiring to make mockery of you, demean you, and defeat you.

The more you fear something, the more it will happen. Allowing fear to get the best part of you is just another way of making up excuses and stopping yourself from doing what you ought to do in  the simplest form.

Ostrich Syndrome 

Don’t make excuses. Not making excuses is the first step to correcting a mistake and conquering fear. No interest, no use doing it, I don’t get it...It is a fatal weakness of a person to always look for objective factors to blame for everything.

Here is a little story

Someone asked a farmer, "Have you planted wheat?"

The farmer answered, "Not yet, I'm afraid it's going to rain."

The man then asked, "So have you planted cotton yet?"

Farmer said: "No, I'm worried that there will be worms eating the cotton."

The man asked again, "And what exactly did you plant?"

Farmer answered: "I didn’t grow anything. That’s the safest way to go."

 

Kidlin’s Law

If you can write a problem down clearly, then the matter is half solved.

1) Define the problem: The first step is to write down the problem clearly and concisely. 

2) Analyse the problem: The next step is to break down the problem into smaller and simpler parts.

3) Generate solutions: The third step is brainstorming possible solutions for each part of the problem. 

4) Evaluate solutions: The fourth step is to evaluate your answers and choose the best one for each part of the problem.

5) Implement solutions: The final step is to implement your chosen answers and monitor their results..

Gilbert’s Laws

One should not just follow the defined approach but should think outside of the box and possible solutions to the problem, and this is what the law states no one will tell you what to do and how to do it perfectly but you must learn to do that.

The biggest problems at work is that no one tells you what to do. The "Rule of Apple” also applies at work. What you do first is more important than how many things you do. If there are good and bad apples in a pile, which one do you eat first? The answer is: you eat the good apples first and throw the bad away because if you eat the bad apples first, the good apples will go bad slowly, and you’ll never have the sweet good apple.

 Walson’s Law

If you put information and intelligence first at all times then the money keeps coming in.

Many people do things better than you, not because they are more capable than you, but because they have more information than you. In our efforts to improve our professional skills, we often lose sight of another important thing: information.

Karma law

Who you are today is as a result of your previous action; everything in your life, including your past, present and future are connected.

Falkland’s Law

If you don’t have to make a decision then don’t make a decision.

Golden Rule

Don’t do to others what you do not want them to do to your.

Acton's Dictum

 Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.

Brandolini’s Law

The amount of energy needed to refute bullshit is an order of magnitude bigger than to produce it.

Cantillon Effect

The flow path of new money matters — those closest to the source and entry point of the new money benefit first and most handsomely.

Cheops Law

Nothing ever gets built on schedule or within budget.

Cunningham’s Laws

The best way to get the right answer on the internet is not to ask a question, it’s to post the wrong answer.

Littlewood’s  Law

In the course of any normal person’s life, miracles happen at a rate of roughly one per months.

Occam’s  Razor

When two or more explanations are offered for a phenomenon, the simplest full explanation is preferable.

Orgel’s Rule

Evolution is cleverer than you are.

Pareto Principle

For many phenomena 80% of consequences stem from 20% of the causes.

Parkinson’s Law

Work expands to fill the time available for its completion.

Corollary: Expenditure rises to meet income.

Parkinson’s  Law of Triviality

The time spent on any agenda item will be in inverse proportion to the sum of money involved.

Peter Principle

In a hierarchy, every employee tends to rise to his level of incompetence.

Streisand Effect

Any attempt to hide, remove, or censor a piece of information has the unintended consequence of publicizing the information more widely.

Imphal Diaries: Excuse-moi, tu as l'heure ? le flirt!!

Excuse me, do you have the time? or interest

One generally thinks that indulging in some harmless flirting could only get one, the attention of that other person, think again......

Flirting does more than just this, it is also a powerful tool which can help people feel good about themselves and moreover, generates lot of positive energy....

Nowadays social media is new medium of flirting.....

People flirt by messaging  for many reasons: fun, relaxation, escape, connection, affection. A flirty text conversation should aim to be warm, funny, and a little thrilling. Asking creative questions, referencing inside jokes or memories, cracking a few jokes, and sending a selfie can help fuel the banter. Reaching out on social media, such as through a message or reaction on Instagram, Facebook  can also lay the foundation for an exchange...

The process allows a person to signal interest in small increments, and enables both parties to gauge the interest level of the other.It is driven by emotions and instinct rather than by logical thought. Yet profound information is transmitted in flirting...

The hallmarks of flirting are surprisingly universal. Women often smile, arch their eyebrows and widen their eyes, tuck their chin down and turn slightly to the side, toss their hair, put their hands near their mouth, and laugh. Men, for their part, often arch their back, stretch their chest, and laugh as well. 

It helps to....

Makes one feel good:  It can make one feel good and also, reduce stress levels. And God knows how much we need those instant stress-busters in today’s fast-paced and ultra-competitive world. 

Helps build confidence and self-esteem: Nothing works better when you’re trying to make a good impression on someone than the aura of self-confidence. People who are sure of themselves somehow just manage to say and do the right things at the right time, and we all know the ‘charming’ benefits of this. Also, being in a relationship for a long time can sometimes make one partner take the other for granted, thus lowering the self-esteem of the other person. A little harmless flirting can go a long way to make you feel attractive and confident about yourself again. 

Makes you feel Charming: Flirting with a person of the opposite gender and getting a favourable response in return can indeed up your hotness quotient by at least a couple of notches. It is a known fact that flirting helps build positive energy. ...

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 जिंदगी उन्हीं की रंगीन है।😁

ARE WE RATIONAL..PEOPLE.....OR COGNITIVE BIASES MAKES US ..NOT

We all like to think we’re rational people making rational decisions....Is this TRUE....

Not true for me at least....

This time when I was on leave at delhi...ordered food online...from KFC...

Once I opened it ..a torn white sheet came fall out...on which it was written

 "sir, im sending you two small french fries ..as a good will gesture...request if you may give me good rating on app"

As sugeested I took the bribe n gave good 😚😚 ratings...

Although as a psycholgy student, I can say that whatever we as human beings have learnt,we make  understanding of it  n observe.it .. N then makes our opinions which  are over the mental  dashboard of ours. Based on same we all carefully weigh the pros and cons of for any issue and make our own  decisions, arriving neatly at a logical choice.

IS IT Right? Wrong?

The truth is, that our mind is incredibly complex, contextual, and emotional. For example, dozens and dozens of cognitive biases influence every decision we make....I know its a difficult term ...to make it simpler one can say that it is type of error in thinking that occurs when people allow their judgments to be influenced by their own personal preferences, emotions, or beliefs. 

We all suffer from multiple cognitive biases, often simultaneously.

In fact, the thought that you are less affected by cognitive biases than other people is a cognitive bias. It’s called the bias blind spot, a tricky little bias that makes it easier for you to detect biases in others (versus yourself).

Because the more you understand the inner workings of your mind, the better one can understand self  and will be able to  interact better with  others. By being aware of the cognitive biases in our mind and the minds of others, one can tap into a source of profound understanding......

 

Availability heuristic

The tendency to overestimate the likelihood of events with greater “availability” in memory, which can be influenced by how recent the memories are or how unusual or emotionally charged they may be.

The availability bias is a mental shortcut that relies on recent memory. If something can be recalled quickly, it must be important or, at least, more important than things that are not easily recalled.

According to this cognitive bias, we use recent information to make decisions, making new opinions biased toward the latest news.

For example, after hearing about a string of burglaries on the news, one might be extra cautious about locking the doors at night.

How it applies in real life: 

It Must Be True If It’s on the Internet!...

That also on first 10 search on google ...without realizing the economics of how search engines work 

Backfire effect

Definition: The reaction to disconfirming evidence by strengthening one's previous beliefs.

This is also known as confirmation bias. Essentially, when people are provided with cold, hard evidence against their beliefs, they often reject the evidence and believe even more strongly in their original position.

In addition, we have the tendency to search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms our preexisting beliefs.

How it applies in Real Life: 

Anyone who has had a heated debate about politics or religion in india for example, might recognize this cognitive bias.

People believe what they believe and it’s very difficult to unseat those beliefs....they can argue ad finem

Barnum effect

Definition: The observation that individuals will give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically for them, but are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people.

How it applies in Real  life : All cult head ..know this technique well ...n using generalization make connect with individual..

This explains how horoscopes, fortune telling, and generic personality tests can seem so accurate.

Benjamin Franklin effect

Definition: A person who has performed a favor for someone is more likely to do another favor for that person than they would be if they had received a favor from that person.

Wait, what? The proposed reason for this psychological phenomenon is that you performed the favor because you like the person.

This is actually the cognitive bias that explains long-held grudges and rivalries because the opposite is true as well: you come to hate those you do wrong.

The writer and inventor Benjamin Franklin quoted an “old maxim” in his autobiography, which is how the bias became named after him: “He that has done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged.”

How it applies in Real life: 

When potential customers are asked  small favor, perhaps to like you on Facebook....rate them and give them good ratings... In matter of time and all lkrlihood They will be more likely to buy/go from same place...

 Decoy effect

Definition: Preferences for either option A or B change in favor of option A or B when option C is presented, which is similar to option B but in no way better.

In other words, option C is completely inferior to A, but on par with B (inferior in some ways, superior in some ways). When C is present, it makes A more attractive than if the options were merely A and B.

For example, let’s say you’re buying a new Phone. Option A is 50K for 30 gigabytes and option B is 40K for 20 gigabytes. Some of you reading this will prefer A, some B. It just depends on how you feel about price and storage.

But now company has released another option, option C. At 55K, it’s more expensive than both A and B, but has slightly less storage (25 gigabytes versus 30 gigabytes) than A.

No one is going to choose C, but it causes A to be chosen more often than if only A and B were present.

How it applies in Real life: All big companies specially tech companies use as a decoy to increase purchases of the bundle they want people to buy...

Post-purchase rationalization

The tendency to persuade oneself through rational argument that a purchase was good value.

This is also known as choice-supportive bias.

We want to make the right choice so much that we tend to retroactively assign positive attributes to an option we’ve selected.

For example, if you choose option A over option B, you are likely to downplay the faults of option A and highlight the faults of option B. You are likely to highlight the advantages of option A and downplay the advantages of option B as well.

How it applies im Real  Life: 

 Halo effect

Definition: The tendency for a person’s positive or negative traits to “spill over” from one personality area to another in others’ perceptions of them.

If a trusted brand releases a new product line, you will automatically assume the new product is great, regardless of whether it truly is...

How it applies in Real life: For example, you might buy an Apple Watch, despite a disinterest in watches, because of positive experiences with your iPhone and MacBook.

You might also be familiar with this concept applied to physical appearance. It’s the same reason we tend to consider people we see as physically attractive to be smart, charming, selfless, etc

How to reduce cognitive bias

There are a few key things that one can do to prevent cognitive bias:

 Be aware of your own biases. We all have them, and they can distort our thinking. By being aware of one's own biases, one can take steps to avoid them. 

Try to get information from multiple sources. When one is  considering a decision, get input from people who have different perspectives from yourself. 

Consider multiple explanations for past events. Don’t just assume that your first explanation is correct when something happens. Consider other possibilities. 

Be willing to change your mind. If new evidence comes to light that contradicts your existing beliefs, be open to changing your mind.

 Be aware of groupthink. People in a group may start to conform to the group’s beliefs, even if those beliefs are inaccurate. Be aware of this phenomenon and make an effort to think for yourself.