Saturday, September 16, 2023

Sometimes it's just fun to understand  happening in our life which are too complicated in just two words or a phrase....

I have tried to compile some of them which seems relevant to me and which can be beneficial to our lives.....

 Murphy’s Law


It states that “what can go wrong will go wrong”. 

We all have probably experienced moments of misery countless times. The day you leave your house without an umbrella, it starts to rain heavily.  You go to the bathroom, and your phone starts ringing from the other room. 


 You may think that the whole world in some eerie ways is conspiring to make mockery of you, demean you, and defeat you.

The more you fear something, the more it will happen. Allowing fear to get the best part of you is just another way of making up excuses and stopping yourself from doing what you ought to do in  the simplest form.


Ostrich Syndrome 


Don’t make excuses. Not making excuses is the first step to correcting a mistake and conquering fear. No interest, no use doing it, I don’t get it...It is a fatal weakness of a person to always look for objective factors to blame for everything.

Here is a little story

Someone asked a farmer, "Have you planted wheat?"

The farmer answered, "Not yet, I'm afraid it's going to rain."

The man then asked, "So have you planted cotton yet?"

Farmer said: "No, I'm worried that there will be worms eating the cotton."

The man asked again, "And what exactly did you plant?"

Farmer answered: "I didn’t grow anything. That’s the safest way to go."

 

Kidlin’s Law


If you can write a problem down clearly, then the matter is half solved.

1) Define the problem: The first step is to write down the problem clearly and concisely. 

2) Analyse the problem: The next step is to break down the problem into smaller and simpler parts.

3) Generate solutions: The third step is brainstorming possible solutions for each part of the problem. 

4) Evaluate solutions: The fourth step is to evaluate your answers and choose the best one for each part of the problem.

5) Implement solutions: The final step is to implement your chosen answers and monitor their results..


Gilbert’s Laws

One should not just follow the defined approach but should think outside of the box and possible solutions to the problem, and this is what the law states no one will tell you what to do and how to do it perfectly but you must learn to do that.

The biggest problems at work is that no one tells you what to do. The "Rule of Apple” also applies at work. What you do first is more important than how many things you do. If there are good and bad apples in a pile, which one do you eat first? The answer is: you eat the good apples first and throw the bad away because if you eat the bad apples first, the good apples will go bad slowly, and you’ll never have the sweet good apple.

 Walson’s Law


If you put information and intelligence first at all times then the money keeps coming in.

Many people do things better than you, not because they are more capable than you, but because they have more information than you. In our efforts to improve our professional skills, we often lose sight of another important thing: information.

Karma law


Who you are today is as a result of your previous action; everything in your life, including your past, present and future are connected.

Falkland’s Law


If you don’t have to make a decision then don’t make a decision.

Golden Rule

Don’t do to others what you do not want them to do to your.

Acton's Dictum

 Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.

Brandolini’s Law


The amount of energy needed to refute bullshit is an order of magnitude bigger than to produce it.

Cantillon Effect


The flow path of new money matters — those closest to the source and entry point of the new money benefit first and most handsomely.

Cheops Law

Nothing ever gets built on schedule or within budget.

Cunningham’s Laws


The best way to get the right answer on the internet is not to ask a question, it’s to post the wrong answer.

Littlewood’s  Law

In the course of any normal person’s life, miracles happen at a rate of roughly one per months.

Occam’s  Razor


When two or more explanations are offered for a phenomenon, the simplest full explanation is preferable.

Orgel’s Rule

Evolution is cleverer than you are.

Pareto Principle

For many phenomena 80% of consequences stem from 20% of the causes.

Parkinson’s Law

Work expands to fill the time available for its completion.

Corollary: Expenditure rises to meet income.

Parkinson’s  Law of Triviality

The time spent on any agenda item will be in inverse proportion to the sum of money involved.

Peter Principle


In a hierarchy, every employee tends to rise to his level of incompetence.


Streisand Effect


Any attempt to hide, remove, or censor a piece of information has the unintended consequence of publicizing the information more widely.

Monday, September 11, 2023

Imphal Diaries: Excuse-moi, tu as l'heure ? le flirt!!

Excuse me, do you have the time? or interest

One generally thinks that indulging in some harmless flirting could only get one, the attention of that other person, think again......


Flirting does more than just this, it is also a powerful tool which can help people feel good about themselves and moreover, generates lot of positive energy....

Nowadays social media is new medium of flirting.....

People flirt by messaging  for many reasons: fun, relaxation, escape, connection, affection. A flirty text conversation should aim to be warm, funny, and a little thrilling. Asking creative questions, referencing inside jokes or memories, cracking a few jokes, and sending a selfie can help fuel the banter. Reaching out on social media, such as through a message or reaction on Instagram, Facebook  can also lay the foundation for an exchange...


The process allows a person to signal interest in small increments, and enables both parties to gauge the interest level of the other.It is driven by emotions and instinct rather than by logical thought. Yet profound information is transmitted in flirting...


The hallmarks of flirting are surprisingly universal. Women often smile, arch their eyebrows and widen their eyes, tuck their chin down and turn slightly to the side, toss their hair, put their hands near their mouth, and laugh. Men, for their part, often arch their back, stretch their chest, and laugh as well. 

It helps to....


Makes one feel good:  It can make one feel good and also, reduce stress levels. And God knows how much we need those instant stress-busters in today’s fast-paced and ultra-competitive world. 


Helps build confidence and self-esteem: Nothing works better when you’re trying to make a good impression on someone than the aura of self-confidence. People who are sure of themselves somehow just manage to say and do the right things at the right time, and we all know the ‘charming’ benefits of this. Also, being in a relationship for a long time can sometimes make one partner take the other for granted, thus lowering the self-esteem of the other person. A little harmless flirting can go a long way to make you feel attractive and confident about yourself again. 


Makes you feel Charming: Flirting with a person of the opposite gender and getting a favourable response in return can indeed up your hotness quotient by at least a couple of notches. It is a known fact that flirting helps build positive energy. ...


जो रंग बदलना जानते है,
 जिंदगी उन्हीं की रंगीन है।😁


Friday, July 14, 2023

ARE WE RATIONAL..PEOPLE.....OR COGNITIVE BIASES MAKES US ..NOT

We all like to think we’re rational people making rational decisions....Is this TRUE....
Not true for me at least....
This time when I was on leave at delhi...ordered food online...from KFC...
Once I opened it ..a torn white sheet came fall out...on which it was written
 "sir, im sending you two small french fries ..as a good will gesture...request if you may give me good rating on app"
As sugeested I took the bribe n gave good 😚😚 ratings...


Although as a psycholgy student, I can say that whatever we as human beings have learnt,we make  understanding of it  n observe.it .. N then makes our opinions which  are over the mental  dashboard of ours. Based on same we all carefully weigh the pros and cons of for any issue and make our own  decisions, arriving neatly at a logical choice.

IS IT Right? Wrong?

The truth is, that our mind is incredibly complex, contextual, and emotional. For example, dozens and dozens of cognitive biases influence every decision we make....I know its a difficult term ...to make it simpler one can say that it is type of error in thinking that occurs when people allow their judgments to be influenced by their own personal preferences, emotions, or beliefs. 


We all suffer from multiple cognitive biases, often simultaneously.

In fact, the thought that you are less affected by cognitive biases than other people is a cognitive bias. It’s called the bias blind spot, a tricky little bias that makes it easier for you to detect biases in others (versus yourself).

Because the more you understand the inner workings of your mind, the better one can understand self  and will be able to  interact better with  others. By being aware of the cognitive biases in our mind and the minds of others, one can tap into a source of profound understanding......

Availability heuristic

The tendency to overestimate the likelihood of events with greater “availability” in memory, which can be influenced by how recent the memories are or how unusual or emotionally charged they may be.

The availability bias is a mental shortcut that relies on recent memory. If something can be recalled quickly, it must be important or, at least, more important than things that are not easily recalled.

According to this cognitive bias, we use recent information to make decisions, making new opinions biased toward the latest news.

For example, after hearing about a string of burglaries on the news, one might be extra cautious about locking the doors at night.

How it applies in real life: 

It Must Be True If It’s on the Internet!...

That also on first 10 search on google ...without realizing the economics of how search engines work 

Backfire effect

Definition: The reaction to disconfirming evidence by strengthening one's previous beliefs.

This is also known as confirmation bias. Essentially, when people are provided with cold, hard evidence against their beliefs, they often reject the evidence and believe even more strongly in their original position.

In addition, we have the tendency to search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms our preexisting beliefs.


How it applies in Real Life: 

Anyone who has had a heated debate about politics or religion in india for example, might recognize this cognitive bias.

People believe what they believe and it’s very difficult to unseat those beliefs....they can argue ad finem


Barnum effect

Definition: The observation that individuals will give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically for them, but are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people.


How it applies in Real  life : All cult head ..know this technique well ...n using generalization make connect with individual..

This explains how horoscopes, fortune telling, and generic personality tests can seem so accurate.


Benjamin Franklin effect

Definition: A person who has performed a favor for someone is more likely to do another favor for that person than they would be if they had received a favor from that person.

Wait, what? The proposed reason for this psychological phenomenon is that you performed the favor because you like the person.

This is actually the cognitive bias that explains long-held grudges and rivalries because the opposite is true as well: you come to hate those you do wrong.

The writer and inventor Benjamin Franklin quoted an “old maxim” in his autobiography, which is how the bias became named after him: “He that has done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged.”

How it applies in Real life: 

When potential customers are asked  small favor, perhaps to like you on Facebook....rate them and give them good ratings... In matter of time and all lkrlihood They will be more likely to buy/go from same place...


 Decoy effect

Definition: Preferences for either option A or B change in favor of option A or B when option C is presented, which is similar to option B but in no way better.

In other words, option C is completely inferior to A, but on par with B (inferior in some ways, superior in some ways). When C is present, it makes A more attractive than if the options were merely A and B.

For example, let’s say you’re buying a new Phone. Option A is 50K for 30 gigabytes and option B is 40K for 20 gigabytes. Some of you reading this will prefer A, some B. It just depends on how you feel about price and storage.

But now company has released another option, option C. At 55K, it’s more expensive than both A and B, but has slightly less storage (25 gigabytes versus 30 gigabytes) than A.

No one is going to choose C, but it causes A to be chosen more often than if only A and B were present.

How it applies in Real life: All big companies specially tech companies use as a decoy to increase purchases of the bundle they want people to buy...


Post-purchase rationalization

The tendency to persuade oneself through rational argument that a purchase was good value.

This is also known as choice-supportive bias.

We want to make the right choice so much that we tend to retroactively assign positive attributes to an option we’ve selected.

For example, if you choose option A over option B, you are likely to downplay the faults of option A and highlight the faults of option B. You are likely to highlight the advantages of option A and downplay the advantages of option B as well.

How it applies im Real  Life: 



 Halo effect

Definition: The tendency for a person’s positive or negative traits to “spill over” from one personality area to another in others’ perceptions of them.

If a trusted brand releases a new product line, you will automatically assume the new product is great, regardless of whether it truly is...


How it applies in Real life: For example, you might buy an Apple Watch, despite a disinterest in watches, because of positive experiences with your iPhone and MacBook.

You might also be familiar with this concept applied to physical appearance. It’s the same reason we tend to consider people we see as physically attractive to be smart, charming, selfless, etc



How to reduce cognitive bias

There are a few key things that one can do to prevent cognitive bias:

 Be aware of your own biases. We all have them, and they can distort our thinking. By being aware of one's own biases, one can take steps to avoid them. 

Try to get information from multiple sources. When one is  considering a decision, get input from people who have different perspectives from yourself. 

Consider multiple explanations for past events. Don’t just assume that your first explanation is correct when something happens. Consider other possibilities. 

Be willing to change your mind. If new evidence comes to light that contradicts your existing beliefs, be open to changing your mind.

 Be aware of groupthink. People in a group may start to conform to the group’s beliefs, even if those beliefs are inaccurate. Be aware of this phenomenon and make an effort to think for yourself. 

Friday, February 24, 2023

The psychology of Attraction: Why do we like someone ?

Most of us have felt it.

You go about your day and life, unsuspecting, and then it hits you. All it takes is a look, a smile, a smell. And you’re toasted! It’s the most amazing thing. 
I asked my friends n best viewpoint I liked is:

"I normally like someone or want to be around ( in the first place) when I feel positive vibes around the person, . Question is how would I know?"
                                                    Demi

 
Long back I met this girl  posted to my place....n boom I'm  gone......n still hanginng out with her
What is it that made us click .....is it some neuro transmitter which matched the frequency and then brains get flooded in chemicals that keep pulling us closer to that person.

According to neurologists who have researched it, the brain of someone who gets fatal attraction looks a lot like a brain of a heroin addict! Some signs  which can help are

1. Your stomach flutters

Those matchmaker chemicals are busy again, this time releasing adrenaline into your veins so that when it is released, you get all the ‘feels.’  And if the chemistry is making its reaction as  first sight trick on you, you can expect powerful butterflies.

2. It feels as though you’ve met them before

3. Nerves kick in when you are around them

looking at this person makexpect

 stutter or feel your nerves prickling sign 

4. You are confused by your reaction

You are drawn to this person, and you just don’t know why because they are far from your ‘norm,’ but you are so attracted to then


5. You are compelled to talk to them

 You have an   unstoppable desire  to go and speak to them, despite being a  wreck. 


6. You can’t get them out of your mind


7. You smile thinking about them

8. You feel your heart facing

9. You get a sudden urge to see/ meet them

10. You find them extremely attractively




There r various reasons but these five...aspects have root into abovementioned aspects

Proximity: How near you are to someone and how often you see them


Similarity: how like you they are, for example, do you share similar interests or valued


Reciprocity: we’re more likely to like people who like us

Physical Attractiveness: are they pleasing to look at as per your parameters

Familiarity: we like people who seem comfortable to us

This seems familiar

Most of these factors have in the past been attributed with how we’ve evolved as humans. We are attracted to those who seem familiar to us, as familiarity provides predictability and safety.

So for example, if someone in your family or group of friends that you grew up with was really funny, and you enjoy their company, you might be likely to be more attracted to funny people when you grow up, because it’s something that you’re used to.

These factors can also be linked. Like proximity and familiarity: if you see someone every day, you’re likely going to get used to their company over time, until it gets to a point where you’re very comfortable with them and it would feel strange not having them around.


Don’t stand so close to me

Proximity has always been, and to some extent still is, considered the most important part of why we’re attracted to someone, or even why we’re friends with someone.

If you look at people who use Facebook for example you still find the people they would claim to be their best friends tend to be in close proximity to them. 

Dating apps have gone some way to change this however. Where in the past you might have been limited to the people in your immediate circle or community to pick a date from, now you have hundreds upon thousands of more options.


Technology has “changed the way that we interact with people and the number of people that we can potentially be attracted to”, as now we can swipe through hundreds of potential friends every few minutes.


Whatever said still whatever age you are once in a while these butterflies in your stomach makes you feel alive. ..so IT'S  STILL FUN TO LIVE 


 

No restriction of age
not the bond of lives
when someone loves
 should see only the soul
by carving new trend
 Make the trend immortal

The Many Sides of the Self: Reflections at Ashoka, Coffee Breaks, and Lal Legionaries

What a turnaround, just few months back when life was so fast-paced I barely knew where the time went. Now, I'm sitting here...