I realised very early in my life...that there is no ideal in my life..N I believed I'm the best
I could make poor choices out of fear, guilt, and shame or empowered choices that were aligned with who I was and what felt authentic to me. So, early in my life , I stopped trying to please people, accommodating people unworthy of my attention, and doing things that didn’t bring me pleasure or satisfaction.
When you start loving yourself more, you too will realize your wants and needs are important, and you have the choice to honor them.
You will set stronger boundaries around friends..
As a result of honoring your feelings,
You will stop seeking approval.
This is the most liberating thing. As I loved and respected myself more, I stopped worrying about how much others liked or approved of me. I stopped doing things to get Validation. This created space for me to be more authentic, less defensive, and more my genuine self.
When you have your own approval and acceptance, you start caring less about other people’s opinion of you and living a life that’s aligned with your own values.
You will start to make more courageous and conscious decisions.
Self-love will give you the courage to get rid of things that don’t serve you and make space for things that will help you grow. When you truly value yourself, you make decisions that honor you rather than harm you.
You will start to enjoy being with yourself.
I stopped filling my days with meetings, parties, and outings, as I did in the past just so I wouldn’t feel alone. I stopped meeting friends just to have some company.
Instead, I started to do more things I loved doing:
Gym
yoga
writing blogs
watching movies
Trekking
finding real friends
When I reconnected with myself deeply, spending time in my own company didn’t feel scary anymore. I stopped being afraid of being alone.
You too will find that when you become more loving toward yourself, you will start being more comfortable being in your own lovely company.
You will develop a stronger relationship with yourself.
As I spent more time with myself I deepened the connection I had with myself. I started to feel more secure as a person as I tapped into my true inner being. I started to believe in myself more. I started to trust myself more.
When you deepen your connection with yourself through self-love, you’ll connect on a deeper level with others too. As your relationship with yourself improves, your others get stronger as well.
You will stop seeking happiness in relationships.
Loving myself helped me realize that I didn’t need anyone to be happy. All the love I needed to be happy was within me already. I took more responsibility for my personal happiness and stopped giving my power away to anyone.
I understood that happiness was constantly present in my life. It wasn’t somewhere in the future. I just needed to change my focus and learn to appreciate what I had rather than dwelling on what I didn’t have.
When you start to love yourself more and feel happier, you too will likely feel less desperate for a romantic relationship. You just need to be happy and the right person will show up in time.
So how do you start loving yourself more? Start choosing yourself daily and doing what feels right for you.
Introduce a daily practice of checking in with yourself every time you need to make a decision or a choice.
First you ask yourself: What would feel loving in this situation?
Once you have the answer, ask yourself these thee powerful questions:
Does it feel good/right for me?
Will it serve me?
Will it make me feel energized?
Let me just say this: Self-love will transform your life—so start practicing!
