𝐕𝐈𝐑𝐓𝐔𝐀𝐋 𝐑𝐄𝐋𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏.....𝐅𝐔𝐓𝐔𝐑𝐄 𝐎𝐅 𝐓𝐎𝐃𝐀𝐘'𝐒 𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐋 𝐑𝐄𝐋𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏

Has Virtual Relationship  Transcended the Boundary of Real Rêlå†ïðñ§hïþ

Ä ßɎGÖñÈ ÈRÄ

𝐌𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐟 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐫𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐬 💐 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐞𝚜 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝 .. .to finding out the difference between best 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬 👭👬 𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬..... 

..to selecting cards at Archie's shop... 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 I like you ..to love you....n finally the first 𝚝𝚒𝚖𝚎 𝚑𝚘𝚕𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚍𝚜....

....these are some of shared memories of a teenager🔞🧒....still we all cherish 𝕚𝕥 𝕒𝕤 𝕥𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕦𝕣𝕖𝕕 𝕞𝕖𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕤 𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕟 𝕚𝕗 doesn't matter to us anymore as adults..... 

𝕍𝕀ℝ𝕋𝕌𝔸𝕃 ℝ𝔼𝕃𝔸𝕋𝕀𝕆ℕ𝕊ℍ𝕀ℙ... 𝔸 ℕ𝔼𝕎 𝔼ℝ𝔸

So does having virtual relationship stops or enhance creating shared memories

You like someone but don't have time so one continues relationship via virtual world....🅸🆂 🅸🆃 🆁🅴🅰🅻

We 🅰🅻🅻 nowaday whatsapp—a lot....even wishing birthday n anniversary are through text n smileys ... is it able to convey the emotion ...

 Many  people...are now experiencing their “romantic” relationship on their phones. 

People begin texting each other intimately and voraciously often before they are even friends, texting things to each other that they would never (ever) say in person. Having a real life relationship with your friend is no longer a prerequisite for having a virtual relationship with him/her. ....

Being part of a couple nowadays also doesn’t mean that you do anything in the world together, like go for ice cream or see a movie as it used to be understood earlier... The secrecy n trust of relationship is maintaneable  far better then real relationship... 

On their own, texting relationships might not seem like a big deal, but the challenges that they create is indeed a big deal. Virtual relationships is taking over real relationships (with new set of skills for wooing and maintaining relationship).  The intimacy of the texting relationship may not be real intimacy, but still it gives a sense of equivalent gratification if not more.  

The virtual romance happens at a pace and rhythm and with a hipness and ease that real life romance can't have..... 

Adult relationships are also getting caught in the chasm between virtual and actual reality. After a first or second interaction, it is common for people to begin texting with a frequency, casualness, and intimacy that is at higher level of the relationship; they share their thoughts, feelings, and everyday experiences as if communicating with a best friend or maybe more accurately, a part of themselves. They share their lives, as well, without the discomfort or effort that a phone call or in person exchange might require. 

This   intimacy  leads to the possibility of the relationship blossoming into something more real as the connection gets real....but here  is a catch ......it can get waylaid in a kind of texting purgatory: a fast-paced, uber cool and pseudo-sexy... 

𝚃𝙴𝚇𝚃𝙸𝙽𝙶 𝙸𝚂 𝙱𝙴𝙲𝙾𝙼𝙸𝙽𝙶 𝙵𝙸𝚁𝚂𝚃 𝙻𝙰𝙽𝙶𝚄𝙰𝙶𝙴 𝙾𝙵 𝙽𝙴𝚆 𝚁𝙴𝙻𝙰𝚃𝙸𝙾𝙽𝚂𝙷𝙸𝙿

It’s also not just romantic relationships that are being transformed but even in friendships, even those that are long-term, texting allows for a creative, exciting and newfound conversational dance, a verve that is often not possible in the face to face familiarity.  So too, texting feels easier and less stressful than real life relating; the conversation pauses or ends when we want it to and can happen in bite size, manageable chunks, with no awkward silences.  Texting relationships feel in our control while real relationships often are not in control.....................................................

𝐖𝐄 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐁𝐄 𝐖𝐇𝐎 𝐖𝐄 𝐖𝐀𝐍𝐓 𝐈𝐍 𝕍𝕀ℝ𝕋𝕌𝔸𝕃 𝐑𝐄𝐋𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏 𝐁𝐔𝐓 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐀𝐋𝐖𝐀𝐘𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐋 ℝ𝔼𝕃𝔸𝕋𝕀𝕆ℕ𝕊ℍ𝕀ℙ

One can’t be as fabulous in person as his/her text messages...and our friends can’t be as fabulous either, which means that the whole real life relating experience can become a kind of mixed emotion.... but at least new connections are bring made

I wonder, will the gap between our virtual and real life relationships grow so wide that we will opt to give up real life relationships altogether. Will there come a time when we no longer even pretend to want or need face to face interaction?  With the help of  technology, will future generations consider romance and courtship to be activities that happen entirely inside their devices?   

Virtual relationships may feel sexier, easier, cooler,  more pleasurable. ....but it also help in creating the shared memories.like real relationship minus physical intimacy... 

Although some may argue that it remains as textual memory kept in some cloud of WhatsApp or Google..

In conclusion, it is still  better then nothing and a substitute of real relationship as you can connect to people for longer period in some real time .... 

VIRTUAL RELATIONSHIP

Every chime of the pop up messsge,
he sees her affection
through emojis turning

 into real emotions

His  heart beats so fast
to the ringtone of his high-tech gizmo
That every keypad pressed
are thousand sweet words expressed

The distance won't keep them apart,
signals will bridge their undying love
because, as long as we have these  electronic gadgets

The love will always REMAIN IN AIR

𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗙 𝗜𝗠𝗔𝗚𝗘 𝗩𝗜𝗦 𝗔 𝗩𝗜𝗦 𝗖𝗢𝗚𝗡𝗜𝗧𝗜𝗩𝗘 𝗗𝗜𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗥𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡𝗦

Vidula my wife 👰 keeps on saying nowadays that she is putting on weight although she is perfectly physically fit or to say much fitter then earlier .This thought led me to recollect my psychology days about cognitive distortions and how it makes our self Image. I have seen what ever we start thinking about ourselves we actually start becoming. 

So this leads to the concept 𝚘𝚏 

𝚁𝚎𝚗𝚞𝚖𝚎𝚛𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝚃𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐..

These are negative thought patterns that keep on coming again and again in our minds.... It  represent an ongoing attempt to come up with insight or solutions to problems we are concerned about. These unhelpful filters make whatever life circumstances we find ourselves in that much more anxiety-provoking and challenging.

What are unhelpful cognitive distortions?

The main cognitive distortions are as follows (and some of them overlap):

• Black-and-white (or all-or-nothing) Thinking I never have anything interesting to say.
• Jumping to conclusions (or mind-reading)The doctor is going to tell me I have cancer.
• Personalization Our team lost because of me.
• Should-ing and must-ing (using language that is self-critical that puts a lot of pressure on you): I should be losing weight.
• Mental filter (focusing on the negative, such as the one aspect of a health change which you didn’t do well): I am terrible at getting enough sleep.
• Overgeneralization: I’ll never find a partner.
• Magnification and minimization (magnifying the negative, minimizing the positive): It was just one healthy meal.
• Fortune-telling: My cholesterol is going to be sky-high.
• Comparison (comparing just one part of your performance or situation to another’s, which you don’t really know, so that it makes you appear in a negative light): All of my coworkers are happier than me.
• Catastrophizing (combination of fortune-telling and all-or-nothing thinking; blowing things out of proportion): This spot on my skin is probably skin cancer; I’ll be dead soon.
• Labeling: I’m just not a healthy person.
• Disqualifying the positive: I answered that well, but it was a lucky guess. 
• 

  
  
  
  

𝙀𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡  𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙤𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜

Many of us engage in emotional reasoning, a process in which our negative feelings about ourselves inform our thoughts, as if they were factually based,; in the absence of any facts to support these unpleasant feelings.

 In other words, your emotions and feelings about a situation become your actual view of the situation, regardless of any information to the contrary. Emotional reasoning often employs many of the other cognitive filters to sustain it, such as catastrophizing and disqualifying the positive. Examples of this may be thinking:

• I look fat even though you are perfectly fit 

• I’m an awful student, even if you are getting some good grades
• My partner is cheating on me, even if there is no evidence for this (jealousy is defining your reality)
• Nobody likes me, even if you have friends (loneliness informs your thinking).

• How do you challenge and change cognitive distortion

•  I’ve learned to remind myself that whatever comes up, I’ll deal with it as well as I can. I try to trust my future self to cope, in an effective way, with whatever life will throw my way. 

  As an example, if you are driving on a highway some or other vehicle will go ahead of your vehicle, they are just cutting off a random car, not you, because they have no idea who you are. So there’s no reason to take it personally. To personalize situations like this just makes you upset. If you don’t take it personally, it changes it from "idiot cut me off" to "people should drive more safely."

• As they say in the new movie  Dune, "fear is the mind-killer." Being anxious or afraid certainly makes me less effective, no matter what I’m trying to accomplish.