Are You in a Web of Relationship called entanglement or Love
It's amazing that suddenly my inner psychologist has come back.... recently one of my junior got sought my advice regarding her entanglement which is now creating chaos in her life as she is not able to come out of web........I as time honoured practice of being a psychologist gave her a patient hearing... And later we delved upon the issue... But this led me to think about Web of entanglement in relationship...
Meeting someone n still not sure what's the relationship.... It happens n as we grow it happens more... Is it a relationship growing or just N entanglement....
Are you in a relationship, or are you in web of entanglement?
A relationship is one where both people are in harmony. And that's exactly what it feels like: in tune, relaxed, and just plain fun.
I feel some or other time we all get web of entanglements masquerading as real relationships....
It's signatures are
You keep having the same issues
When you find yourself having the same old argument with your partner for the umpteenth time, that's a pretty good sign you're likely in an entanglement.
You don't feel safe or understood
Entanglements feel like you have to shut down a part of yourself. If you're feeling like your partner just doesn't get you, and that you're not free to say exactly what's on your mind, you know you're not in a real relationship.
Someone always needs to be right
It is characterized by power struggles. Both people are vying for the title of victim, thus making the other the perpetrator. Nobody ever wins.
It's just so hard
If you're feeling drained with your partner, you're likely caught up in an entanglement.
Is it normal to be entangled...i feel yes....It's completely normal.
Most people have been in an entanglement, and a lot of them have been in many.
We all come to relationships with unresolved issues from our past, and we naturally look to our partners to make us feel good about ourselves. And so it's always a surprise when we finally think we've found love, only to experience pain and frustration.
What can be done
Identify that you're in an web of entanglement
Knowing whether you're in a pattern of entanglement is key to resolving it once and for all. Otherwise, there's a "blind spot" that keeps you from moving forward, and you're doomed to keep repeating the pain and struggle.
End the entanglement or transform it into a real relationship
Once you know you're dealing with an entanglement, you can harness all that energy you've been spending on conflict, and instead use it to come up with creative solutions. You can transform the entanglement into a real relationship, or you can end the entanglement with peace of mind, armed with the insight you need to create love and harmony in the future.....
This is the free advice I gave to my friend... Hope to read your views also.....
Well written with deep insight to the complex issue.
ReplyDeleteInteresting n relevant
ReplyDeleteVery, True... Many of us carry this entanglement not even relationship but also in other sphere of life.. It's like after spending time we are raw stone shape, did not adjusted to fine shape after spending considerable time and starts troubling ourselves.. We need to be open, empathetic and solution oriented than of & conflictive and imposing...Truely, a 24 Carot Psychologist content which has deep message and I am sure will be very helpful for readers to overcome with such Entanglement..
ReplyDeleteVery well brought out Sir. Quite a learning...
ReplyDeleteHa ha.. this entanglement is commonly referred to as marriage and also sometimes love.. two good human beings together, trying to fulfil a thousand roles at the same time.. a very complex relationship where it's not about the two persons concerned but a whole world of significant and insignificant others.. the key is learning for both.. marriages/relationships are made in heaven but they are to be made happy by working on it...by both.. and understanding and respecting the core value fir which they came together. If that has changed, perhaps it's time to move on. If this value still remains the same, it's time to become emotionally intelligent in handling the entanglement feeling.. what say?
ReplyDeleteIt's not only about marriages but all sort of relationship... wherein we keep on lingering it ...without any reason...moving on...is a must
DeleteAn interesting read! Looking forward to more. Thought provoking write up.
ReplyDeleteDeep and meaningful thoughts Rajnish. Most of us are engrossed in multiple such entanglements and the most important aspect is to come out of these. But, many do not have the courage to resolve it and live life happily thereafter !
ReplyDeleteGod inspired him to love her and ready to sacrifice himself for her.On the other hand she has to respect him as the head of the family. Hope this make entanglements turn into love.
ReplyDeleteMy share
Very well articulated and eye-opening. Relationships are a lot of work and hope this kind of understanding helps us work in the right direction
ReplyDeleteThe person may now take an informed decision whether to remain in peace or remain entangled. Sir this piece
ReplyDeleteof yours is Food for thought before getting entangled.
Sir, I feel that all relationships take effort and work. One is a human before being a husband, a wife, a girlfriend/boyfriend/partner. Like you've said, relationships help build one another and I think this element is essential. And I'm just wondering, is entanglement a 'relationship'? The "I" and "Other" both have to be considered, right? Both are accountable and responsible in a relationship I feel, Sir. Sometimes, we lose our individuality in a relationship. I think it's beautiful when two "individuals" come together and create a perfect picture even though they are imperfect beings.
ReplyDeleteI feel entanglement is also a relationship....only thing is that we have not grown or mature enough to sustain it or to say except as what we are...we all r expectations in eyes of others...that's why we always judge...never understand each other in times of strain in relationship
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